Genuine Clearance Sale

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Some places like the retailer Kathmandu seem to be having a sale 365 days a year.

Here at Femplay New Zealand we have some of the cheapest prices online for sex toys all year round.

Sometimes though – something special happens. A once in a blue moon event that changes everything. That’s right, this is a ‘once in a lifetime’ sale!

We have over 110 products heavily discounted to prices never seen before in New Zealand.

Stock is limited to what we have left. We won’t be selling these products again after they are sold. They may not even be available in New Zealand again as the supplier has high tailed it back to Australia. This doesn’t mean the products are inferior. Far from it. They are some of the worlds best sex toy brands including Pipedreams, California Exotics and Fleshlight.

Check out these genuine clearance sale items and grab yourself a real bargain!

Just don’t expect this to happen next month!

How to choose the right lube for you?

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Well we have we opened a can of worms with this topic. This is one of those ‘how much time do you have?’ questions that you could probably write a book about.

Ronda Rousey the female MMA champion that has been all over the news recently stated that ‘you dont need lube if youre doing things right’. Well I am afraid that doesn’t cut it for most women even those in peak physical condition.

There are literally scores of reasons why a women’s hormones can be affected including using birth control, breastfeeding, pregnancy and other external factors. Not to mention the fact that women naturally lubricate less as they get older.

So that’s a ridiculous statement from Ronda, but then we probably wouldn’t say that to her face…

And of course that doesn’t take into account her partner. Or in other words, of course penis size is relevant and some women and just built smaller, and some men much larger than others. Using a sexual lubricant enhances all lovemaking, even for younger, super horny couples.

It reduces the risks of injury and cuts and abrasions as well which lessens the chance of contracting an STD or developing UTI’s.

So how to actually choose the right lube?

The very first thing you need to know is a total paradox. Or in other words, its a big WTF. You can’t use silicone based lubricants with silicone toys. Now if you just take that away from this article, then you have saved yourself a lot of grief.

The reason is that silicone toys are generally more expensive, and the last thing you want to do is ruin your $130 We Vibe by using the wrong type of lube.

So the easiest thing to do is simply used Water Based Lubricants because these work great with all sex toys, then you can’t go wrong in theory.

But why are silicone based lubricants like Wet Stuff Gold and Pjur Woman so popular? Well simply because silicone based lubricants are more effective and ‘long lasting’ than less sophisticated water based formulations.

You also need to use less which means basically they are more concentrated, and certainly more longer lasting that water based lubes. But… there are other cons such as cleaning up is harder (silicone does not wash out in water so easily – you need to use soap).

Silicone is also a little harder to get out of fabrics and sheets, although not impossible and also they tend to leave a coating on your skin. But because silicone is a natural substance that’s not a problem. In fact your skin will absorb the silicone naturally over time if simply left there.

And just to confuse matters, not all silicone lubes are the same. While Wet Stuff Gold for example is really popular and considered a top quality live – Pjur Woman is just in another class altogether.

Recently they have added many smaller size bottles which means customers like you can experience a really high quality lube in a 10ml bottle for less than the cost of a regular lube.

One thing I do want to say and that is do avoid KY Lube the type of stuff sold at supermarkets etc. In fact, most of the lubricants sold in supermarkets we really wouldn’t recommend. They are fine for a friday night fling, but you will get much better lubes by concentrating on the less mass produced stuff and choosing a brand like Wet Stuff or Pjur.

I have met the owners of both these companies and believe me, they really understand their customers and do not compromise on safety and quality.

There is a lot to be said for biting the bullet and buying a really good quality lubricant like Pjur Woman and simply using less of the stuff making it better value in the long term. It’s the lube I choose and recommend to friends, and have been doing for about 11 years. Everyone loves it!

That reminds of when we went shopping for a baby seat a few weeks back. The guy in the shop was going through all the spiels about all the seats and the features and I was trying to compare them in my head. I was running out of time so I simply said ‘Which baby seat would you put your child in?”.

He quickly offered that he had just recommended and installed the Britax for his niece yesterday. I really wish salespeople would just cut to the chase sometimes. Of course I bought a Britax – and it’s fantastic by the way.

If you have any more questions about choosing the right lube then please get in touch.

Most Dangerous Sex Position

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Hot on the heels of a recent post we made regarding our doubts that Fifty Shades of Gray has anything to do with an increase in emergency department visits, we thought it fitting to report the latest scientific study on the most dangerous sexual position.

Doctors and scientists in Brazil apparently had nothing better do than to look at 13 years of emergency room visits to see if they could work out the most dangerous sex position in terms of injuries. Now you might be thinking (as we did) what exactly is dangerous about having sex? Its not really something you associate with injury or risk, but according to this study the Cowgirl position (women on top just in case you weren’t aware of that term) is by far the riskiest for the male in terms of potential for penile fractures resulting in over 50% of the injuries.

Coming in a close second was of course the rather athletic ‘doggy style’ which again, for those who aren’t initiated, that’s where the women is on all fours and her partner has normal vaginal sex from behind.

Ladies can relax though as this stage, because the study found that all the injuries were on the male side and all related to penile fractures. Apparently the female anatomy is much sturdier.

What exactly is a penile fracture and how do you know when its happened? Well apparently penile fractures normally produce an audible sound (ouch) a sort of cracking sound. No doubt they are also accompanied by a severe amount of pain and discomfort and embarrassment for the man concerned.

There may be an assumption that men may be to embarrassed to seek medical help for a penile fracture but all the information online (and lets face it – that’s the first thing you would do right – Google it!) suggests that a penile fracture is something requiring urgent medical attention.

Unfortunately (for obvious reasons) the study authors still couldn’t definitively say why they thought this was the case. They hypothesized that ‘When woman is on top she usually controls the movement with her entire body weight landing on the erect penis, not being able to interrupt it when the penis suffers a wrong way penetration, because the harm is usually minor in woman with no pain but major in the penis’. Groundbreaking stuff.

Now here is what this makes this study seem even more farcical. The study looked at emergency department visits over thirteen years and guess how many men actually presented with a penile fracture? You would assume thousands since this must be a under reported health crisis right? Well, 44 in total. The data was taken from three emergency departments over a thirteen year period so that works out to a total of one, yes one presentation per hospital per year. And remember this is Brazil,

So Ladies and Gentlemen, the take away value from this rather ludicrous study seems to be that one should certainly be careful in the woman on top position, but I am sure men know this already. Bottom line is, the chances of this happening so some small as to not even worry about it. Surely there are more important things to worry about?

Have any of the readers had experiences with penile fracture that they would care to share and exactly how they happened? Totally Anonymously of course!

Did Fifty Shades of Grey really increase emergency dept visits?

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Did Fifty Shades of Gray really help increase sex toy injuries at emergency rooms since its release?

It seems someone out there actually pays attention to the amount of injuries caused by sex toys and the Washington Post has compiled an interesting chart that attempts to suggest that an increase in sex toys injuries reported in emergency departments can somehow be linked to the release of Fifty Shades of Gray in 2007.

In my opinion, release of 50 Shades of Gray has absolutely nothing to do with an increase in emergency department cases in the US.

A closer look at the chart reveals that most of these reported injuries were actually trending up since the beginning of the millennium some fifteen years ago, more than seven years before FSOG was even released. This increase in sexual liberation I think has more to do with Generation X and Y being sexually active and very sexually aware due to the proliferation of porn on the internet.

Whats more, there was definitely an upsurge in the industry after the Global Financial Crisis as people tightened their belts and spent less money on entertainment such as movies and restaurants and instead stayed at home and treated themselves instead to more sex toys they could enjoy with their partner – again and again! It is well known that sex, sex toys and the adult industry in general is pretty much not only immune to recessions but it actually thrives in a climate where people are looking for inexpensive entertainment that provides immediate gratification and well needed boost in Dopamine for zero cost.

Its also interesting to note that most of the emergency room cases involved the insertion of foreign objects by males. Presumably this means that the item in question got ‘stuck up there’. I would suggest that the problem here is not sex toys at all, but rather the use of foreign objects that really aren’t designed in the first place, for that purpose. Presumably this mostly occurs not during any sort of role play involving bondage but merely through sexual exploration while masturbating.

There is a reason that we have a category called ‘Butt plugs’ the suggestion being that these devices with their tapered ends will prevent the object from getting lost in the first place. All our rabbit vibrators are also excellent for anal play because the rabbit’s ears (essentially the clitoral stimulator) when used by a man will also prevent it getting stuck. In this case, the clitoral stimulator actually becomes a testicle massager and products such as the mini ivibe with its reduced overall size and perfect for this type of use. In fact, it is well known in the industry that the mini iVibe is popular with gay males.

The fact is that the sex toy industry has been growing very strongly for the past 15 years and will continue to grow as the more liberal younger generations grows up. There is also a global trend in developing countries for young people to remain single – both men and women. This of course encourages masturbation.

Yet Another ‘Sex Survey’ reveals what we really want?

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You are probably more normal than you think! A recent Canadian sex survey of over 1500 people touted as the biggest ever survey of Sexual Fantasies reveals some very interesting facts. These surveys seem to come out every now and then, and I am always suspicious of them. Firstly they are often sponsored by a manufacturer like Durex, or perhaps an online adult store. This gets them great free press and helps with their position in search engines. And many of these surveys are ‘opt in’ meaning people have to send in the survey either by post or choose to complete it online. My feeling is that if you are prepared to contribute to an online survey about your sexual habits the chances are you not a prude! So the results are often skewed, and do you really think people are 100% honest? I don’t think so…Especially if the questions are asked in person.

But this survey was more comprehensive (boasting of being the largest every conducted) and it appears to have been somewhat more scientific than the others without any obvious motives. So what were the results? Well most of all, many of the ‘out there’ sexual fantasies that people thought they had were actually pretty damn common! Whats more, an equal number of both men and women report having the same top five fantasies, with oral sex, place specific and feelings of romance the most common (yes even for men!).

A common fantasy was simply having sex in a new, unusual or different place such as at work or a public toilet (ick!), or in a romantic location. However when it comes to having sex with another partner, 17% more men fantasize about fucking someone other than their special someone. And as for same sex fantasies, well these were common for both men and women even though they identify as heterosexual. This gives rise to my belief that there really isn’t such a thing a ‘heterosexual’ or ‘homosexual’ but rather a continuum or scale where everyone fits somewhere along the line.

It also makes the whole Fifty Shades of Grey thing seem a little blown out of proportion. We decided early on at Femplay New Zealand to not stock the official 50 shades of Grey merchandise. We have many, many fetish related products from reliable and reputable Fetish Fantasy (Pipedreams) which are all great value for money and have stood the test of the time. We didn’t want to jump on the bandwagon and stock a range of products which would inevitably cost more the licensing to the Author. I think they have probably made enough money from the book and movie deals…

As for those identifying as homosexual 19% of people ticked the homosexual or bisexual box. A whopping 26.8% of men said they actually had fantasized about sex with another man, even though only 10.5 per cent identified as homosexual. Again though, I truly wonder how many were actually 100% honest though? And the other interesting thing was that while most women didn’t want their fantasies to come true (for example cheating on their partner) men actually did! Whether or not that was based on an assumption of 0% chance of getting caught I don’t know!

If you could only pick one vibrator

I have been in this industry selling adult toys since 2003 which is over 12 years. They say it takes 10 years to become an expert at something, but I am really not sure I could say I am an expert of adult toys!

The thing is, as my father is always fond of saying ‘Things don’t really change that much!’. Or another way of putting, the more things change the more they stay the same!

And this applies of course to sex toys and in particular sex toys designed for women which is our primary concern here at Femplay.

There are hundreds of sex toys guides published on the internet but the problem with these is that they are often skewed. They are often skewed towards recommending toys which are in vogue, have higher margins (profits) for the retailer, or because they simply look good rather than do the job properly.

So I am loathe to create a generic ‘Sex Toy Guide’ and simply rattle off a list of toys for each category. I would prefer to explain in some detail exactly what makes a good sex toy a great sex toy, and to justify my recommendation for the best sex toy for women here at Femplay New Zealand.

When it comes down it, almost every sex toy aimed at women has some sort of vibration unless its strictly a dildo, which is actually the technical classification of a dildo (e.g. a non vibrating implement for insertion into the vagina). To complicate this, modern dildos also vibrate which sort of ruins that definition.

Then we have Rabbit Vibrators, which are a fairly descriptive term that describes the penis shaped ‘Vibrating Dildo’ which also has the attached clitoral stimulator which is flexible and hits the clitoris or thereabouts during insertion. This is where the actual vibrating bullet is contained, right where the clitoris is. Furthermore, a good Rabbit Vibrator will also have what’s known as ‘rotating beads’ which are sort of hard to describe.

These are usually small beads or studs which are packed tightly together towards the top of the shaft and a small motor inside the Rabbit Vibrator assists with rotating these which generates yet another source of stimulation. If you were to place your hand on these beads they sort of tickle, and there is also slight vibration caused by the movement of the beads.

Now if this wasn’t enough, most rabbit vibrators also allow you to control the strength of the vibrations and vibration patterns. Vibration patterns do things like pulse, escalate etc by the small micro computer inside the vibrator controlling the pattern of both the vibration and strength.

Compare this to a dildo which doesn’t vibrate at all but is just used for insertion, or compare this to a vibrating bullet which is basically the same thing in a rabbit vibrator clitoral stimulator, and you start to realize that the most powerful vibrator you can buy is the rather cute sounding ‘Rabbit Vibrator’. Don’t be put off by the cute sounding name, because Rabbit Vibrators are hands down the best sex toy that a woman can buy.

Now comes the tricky part. Which Rabbit Vibrator should you buy then? Of course we have a whole category of Rabbit Vibrators and they basically do all the same things. However, over the past 12 years of selling them, one product and one product alone continues to get rave reviews and feedback from customers and has engendered an almost cult like status among the women that buy it.

And that product is – The Eclipse Ultra 7 Seven Rabbitronic Rabbit Vibrator.

Now a truly curious person at this stage will want to know why. Why is it that this product alone compared to all the others on sale is so popular? Is it the name, the packaging, the brand? I would venture to say it is none of these.

The name itself is rather masculine ‘Ultra 7’ and was no doubt invented by a man in Hong Kong (where this product was designed). Essentially how it works is this. The Hong Kong company (in this case Seven Creations) designs the toys and has them manufactured in China (where basically all sex toys are made these days). Then its up to the ‘design studios’ and marketing departments to come up with the branding and packaging. Invariably they use western European models.

I don’t know how it works these days but I suspect when this product was first ‘designed’ it was sometime in the late 1990’s and it was probably designed (the packaging and branding) by a man in Hong Kong.

And what is on the front of the packaging? A rather crass and tacky pic of a scantily clad women with obviously augmented breasts.

And to top off the cliche, both the packaging and product are a pink/orange colour which may not appeal to everyone (the most popular colors for sex toys are Pink, Black, Purple in that order – but not this unusual pink/orange color).

But! And this is a really big but… none of that matters one iota. That’s because the first thing you are going to do is rip the rabbit out of its packaging and discard that in the bin where it belongs.

The very important ‘take away value’ to this article is this. The Eclipse Ultra 7 Rabbitronic is hands down the best rabbit vibrator on the market today.

And the reasons for this are many and varied. What many people don’t realize is that the motors in sex toys do not last forever. My virtue of the fact they vibrate and have moving parts this puts alot of strain on the motor and the mechanics of the vibrators.

It is also not uncommon in this industry to have fail rates for new vibrators (dead on arrival) in the 1-5% range. This is unfortunate, and where we discover a product is often dead on arrival we simply stop selling it because its far too much hassle for both us and the customer.

However, the first thing to congratulate the Eclipse Ultra 7 on is the fact that we very, very rarely have any issues with returns or faults on this product. In fact, around 2005 we had a terrible time with the iVibe where almost 1 in 5 of these products were failing… And that product was three times the price of the Eclipse. Thankfully they have sorted that problem out (no doubt changing manufactures in China). However, for whatever reason, the Eclipse Ultra 7 continues to be probably the most reliable vibrator we have ever sold.

Secondly, the whole package just seems to work. All Rabbit Vibrators have a slightly different design/mould and the clitoral stimulator is therefore in a different position. For whatever reason, the Eclipse just seems to get it bank on right. Its also got a very powerful vibrating bullet in the clit tickler.

While the iVibe has continued to improve by adding waterproof functionality, unfortunately (or fortunately depending on your perspective) the Eclipse has remained exactly the same product that was first released on the market at least 15 years ago.

The Eclipse is the absolute ‘go to’ vibrator that Femplay sells, and I highly recommend it because – it just works! Just ignore the tacky packaging.

What are phthalates? Can we avoid them?

What are phthalates and are how can they be avoided?

Unfortunately, unless you live life as an Amazonian Pygmie – avoiding potentially harmful phthalates in everyday common household items is next to impossible. And considering their life expectancy is just 24 years, I wouldn’t recommend that either.

It’s possibly the hardest word to both spell and say that I have every come across, which if you were a conspiracy theorist you might say was done of purpose to make it hard for its meaning to get any traction amongst general consumers. But if you think phthalates is awkward, don’t even think about trying to remember the actual chemical names that this family of chemicals includes such as ‘di-2-ethylhexyl phthalate’.

Phthalates (pronounced f-THAL-lates) are actually a family of chemicals used in the production of plastics and vinyls, primarily to soften them. They are basically everywhere and used in literally thousands of consumer products. However, there is more and more research which suggests that that they may be harmful for us humans in large quantities. Something like a half a billion kilograms of phthalates are produced each year and they are prolific in common consumer products that women use everyday such as perfume, hair spray, shampoo, laundry detergents, insect repellents, vinyl flooring, carpet, plastic toys – even your car steering wheel! There are also phthalates in the air itself, from the dust in building materials.

Even milk in a glass bottle could be exposed to them through the plastic tubes used in the milking process!

Femplay New Zealand sells a wide range of products and most of these contain plastics. Many of them however are phthalate free and wherever possible, if they are we will let you know on the product page. In fact (unlike many other retailers who don’t like to talk about this issue) we also have a phthalate free section on the site under the Vibrators category.

Many adult shops suggest that customer who have concerns about sex toys that contain phthalates that they should use a condom over the toy. However, according to Ted Schettler the sciene director at the Science and Environmental Health Network, who is the author of a several research papers on phthalates there are simply no specific studies that confirm this. However, he did suggest that it would be a likely conclusion that latex condoms (that do not contain phthalates) would lessen the exposure.

Now to the specific question about whether using sex toys that contain phthalates is actually risky, the general conclusion by scientists seems to be that there is not enough data to suggest a correlation, or in other words there have not been enough specific studies into the use of sex toys that contain phthalates and the consequential health risks. Studies have shown however on rats exposed to high amounts of these compounds that they can cause damage to the liver, kidneys, lungs and testes and specifically they can cause hormonal disruption. There is also a preliminary study suggestion a relationship between phthalates and a reduction in semen quality in humans – and also genital development. A study in 2002 caused the FDA to suggest that infant males who were suffering from an illness (and presumably had a compromised immune system), and were undergoing treatment in addition to other vulnerable patients could be harmed by phthalate exposure specifically from vinyl medical devices.

So the two approaches you can take to limit exposure to phthalates in sex toys are as follows:

(1) Choose only Phthalate free sex toys. (2) Use a latex condom on the sex toy. So how do you know which toys contain phthalates and which do not? Basically every toy that doesn’t say its phthalate free you can assume may contain these compounds. Popular branded products like We Vibe are phthalate free and there is a reasonable assumption that they would be very careful to ensure this is the case in order to protect their brand.

Personally, I don’t think its a big deal in terms of sex toys just considering the already massive and unavoidable exposure one gets from these compounds from everyday life. The additional exposure using an adult toy that contains them might give you, in my opinion, is insignificant. But at least with some better understanding of the risks and dangers we can all make our own decisions and perhaps wherever possible, avoid phthalates.