How to choose the right lube for you?

Woman lying in sexy pose on bed

Well we have we opened a can of worms with this topic. This is one of those ‘how much time do you have?’ questions that you could probably write a book about.

Ronda Rousey the female MMA champion that has been all over the news recently stated that ‘you dont need lube if youre doing things right’. Well I am afraid that doesn’t cut it for most women even those in peak physical condition.

There are literally scores of reasons why a women’s hormones can be affected including using birth control, breastfeeding, pregnancy and other external factors. Not to mention the fact that women naturally lubricate less as they get older.

So that’s a ridiculous statement from Ronda, but then we probably wouldn’t say that to her face…

And of course that doesn’t take into account her partner. Or in other words, of course penis size is relevant and some women and just built smaller, and some men much larger than others. Using a sexual lubricant enhances all lovemaking, even for younger, super horny couples.

It reduces the risks of injury and cuts and abrasions as well which lessens the chance of contracting an STD or developing UTI’s.

So how to actually choose the right lube?

The very first thing you need to know is a total paradox. Or in other words, its a big WTF. You can’t use silicone based lubricants with silicone toys. Now if you just take that away from this article, then you have saved yourself a lot of grief.

The reason is that silicone toys are generally more expensive, and the last thing you want to do is ruin your $130 We Vibe by using the wrong type of lube.

So the easiest thing to do is simply used Water Based Lubricants because these work great with all sex toys, then you can’t go wrong in theory.

But why are silicone based lubricants like Wet Stuff Gold and Pjur Woman so popular? Well simply because silicone based lubricants are more effective and ‘long lasting’ than less sophisticated water based formulations.

You also need to use less which means basically they are more concentrated, and certainly more longer lasting that water based lubes. But… there are other cons such as cleaning up is harder (silicone does not wash out in water so easily – you need to use soap).

Silicone is also a little harder to get out of fabrics and sheets, although not impossible and also they tend to leave a coating on your skin. But because silicone is a natural substance that’s not a problem. In fact your skin will absorb the silicone naturally over time if simply left there.

And just to confuse matters, not all silicone lubes are the same. While Wet Stuff Gold for example is really popular and considered a top quality live – Pjur Woman is just in another class altogether.

Recently they have added many smaller size bottles which means customers like you can experience a really high quality lube in a 10ml bottle for less than the cost of a regular lube.

One thing I do want to say and that is do avoid KY Lube the type of stuff sold at supermarkets etc. In fact, most of the lubricants sold in supermarkets we really wouldn’t recommend. They are fine for a friday night fling, but you will get much better lubes by concentrating on the less mass produced stuff and choosing a brand like Wet Stuff or Pjur.

I have met the owners of both these companies and believe me, they really understand their customers and do not compromise on safety and quality.

There is a lot to be said for biting the bullet and buying a really good quality lubricant like Pjur Woman and simply using less of the stuff making it better value in the long term. It’s the lube I choose and recommend to friends, and have been doing for about 11 years. Everyone loves it!

That reminds of when we went shopping for a baby seat a few weeks back. The guy in the shop was going through all the spiels about all the seats and the features and I was trying to compare them in my head. I was running out of time so I simply said ‘Which baby seat would you put your child in?”.

He quickly offered that he had just recommended and installed the Britax for his niece yesterday. I really wish salespeople would just cut to the chase sometimes. Of course I bought a Britax – and it’s fantastic by the way.

If you have any more questions about choosing the right lube then please get in touch.

Most Dangerous Sex Position

Couple lying on bed with woman on top

Hot on the heels of a recent post we made regarding our doubts that Fifty Shades of Gray has anything to do with an increase in emergency department visits, we thought it fitting to report the latest scientific study on the most dangerous sexual position.

Doctors and scientists in Brazil apparently had nothing better do than to look at 13 years of emergency room visits to see if they could work out the most dangerous sex position in terms of injuries. Now you might be thinking (as we did) what exactly is dangerous about having sex? Its not really something you associate with injury or risk, but according to this study the Cowgirl position (women on top just in case you weren’t aware of that term) is by far the riskiest for the male in terms of potential for penile fractures resulting in over 50% of the injuries.

Coming in a close second was of course the rather athletic ‘doggy style’ which again, for those who aren’t initiated, that’s where the women is on all fours and her partner has normal vaginal sex from behind.

Ladies can relax though as this stage, because the study found that all the injuries were on the male side and all related to penile fractures. Apparently the female anatomy is much sturdier.

What exactly is a penile fracture and how do you know when its happened? Well apparently penile fractures normally produce an audible sound (ouch) a sort of cracking sound. No doubt they are also accompanied by a severe amount of pain and discomfort and embarrassment for the man concerned.

There may be an assumption that men may be to embarrassed to seek medical help for a penile fracture but all the information online (and lets face it – that’s the first thing you would do right – Google it!) suggests that a penile fracture is something requiring urgent medical attention.

Unfortunately (for obvious reasons) the study authors still couldn’t definitively say why they thought this was the case. They hypothesized that ‘When woman is on top she usually controls the movement with her entire body weight landing on the erect penis, not being able to interrupt it when the penis suffers a wrong way penetration, because the harm is usually minor in woman with no pain but major in the penis’. Groundbreaking stuff.

Now here is what this makes this study seem even more farcical. The study looked at emergency department visits over thirteen years and guess how many men actually presented with a penile fracture? You would assume thousands since this must be a under reported health crisis right? Well, 44 in total. The data was taken from three emergency departments over a thirteen year period so that works out to a total of one, yes one presentation per hospital per year. And remember this is Brazil,

So Ladies and Gentlemen, the take away value from this rather ludicrous study seems to be that one should certainly be careful in the woman on top position, but I am sure men know this already. Bottom line is, the chances of this happening so some small as to not even worry about it. Surely there are more important things to worry about?

Have any of the readers had experiences with penile fracture that they would care to share and exactly how they happened? Totally Anonymously of course!